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  • Creating (And Paying For) An Estate Plan

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    So, suppose you agree with my post yesterday that death without a will is worse than death with a will, but you don’t know how to get started.

    Estate planning is not my specialty, so nothing I write here should be considered legal advice, but I have a few suggestions.

    Personally, I worked with an attorney who does specialize in estate planning because I felt it would be the best way to ensure it was done correctly. Also, we have an attorney whom we trust and work well with, so it was easy.

    The best way to find an attorney is through word of mouth, and lawyers have a pretty good network so even if your lawyer friend doesn’t specialize in estate planning, chances are good he or she knows someone who does. Alternatively, your state bar should be able to refer you to an attorney as well. An attorney’s services will likely be the most expensive way of creating your estate plan, but most attorneys will negotiate fees with you. I’ve found that here in Los Angeles, a comprehensive estate plan – including wills, durable powers of attorney (also known as living wills), and a revocable living trust – can cost about $2000. That’s a lot of money, but again, you should be able to negotiate the fee. And my guess is that in many parts of the country, the going rate for these services is quite a bit less.

    Another way to create a will is to use a service like LegalZoom or even pick up a fill-in-the-blank will form or software. FindLaw has a list of the minimum requirements to create a legal will in all fifty states plus the District of Columbia. The more complicated your situation, the more difficult it will be to do everything right according to your state’s law, and the more you will want to consider going through an attorney.

    No matter what, though, don’t put off creating your will, especially if you have children and you want to decide who will take care of them if something happens to you. Even if you would choose your parents and a court is most likely to choose your parents also, a will naming them as guardians will facilitate the process. You can never predict what might happen otherwise – for example, the two sets of grandparents could each sue for custody, so that a court will have to decide which set gets primary custody, and then your children will have to go to court to testify about their relationship with each set of grandparents. That could be traumatizing for your children, who will already be traumatized enough by grief over losing you.

    It’s in everyone’s best interest if you do everything you can while you’re alive to make things easy if you’re no longer around.

    Comments

    1. Through my husband's employer, we bought into group legal services coverage. It's like $15/month (we have to commit to a year's worth upfront) and it covers things like wills and certain forms of legal representation.

    2. Chief Family Officer says:

      @Kacie – Oh, that's a great way too!

    3. Anonymous says:

      I have long wanted to create a will. I have a blended family, but my husband and I find talking about who gets what to be to much for our relationship. Translated, I'm the business agent in the family, husband is not.

      Does anyone know any good literature to read about how to structure wills with blended families?

      I feel we need to do a lot of thinking and brainstorming before we call on a professional

    4. Chief Family Officer says:

      @anon – I understand your perspective, but I also think that an experienced professional may also help you form your estate plan because s/he will have insight into the issues you will be dealing with and be a neutral third party who may be easier to listen to. I found a Bankrate article on the topic, and also a book at Amazon called Estate Planning for Blended Families: Providing for Your Spouse & Children in a Second Marriage.

      Hope that helps, and good luck!

    5. Anonymous says:

      Thanks for the info