A couple of months ago, I posted about how praising your child’s efforts rather than intelligence aids your child’s development. My Bits of Understanding newsletter a couple of weeks ago had some great tips along the same lines:
- Be specific.Use descriptive words and identify the precise action that impressed you. For example, instead of saying “That was good,” say, “I liked the way you shared your toy with Tom. I know you didn’t want to, but look how happy he is.”
- State something positive before something negative.
- Notice little and subtle things. For example, say “Thank you for staying still during that diaper change.”