The most recent post on Mom in the Mirror about yay-sayers and nay-sayers reminded me of a book I read when I had just graduated from high school called Life 101. There’s a concept in it called “The Comfort Zone,” and the basic premise of the book is that one must continually seek to expand one’s comfort zone in order to be happy.
I’ve generally found that premise to be true, and have tried to live according to it my entire adult life. It would seem, though, that nothing can expand my comfort zone quite like having my first child. I was thinking about this the other day – ever since my son was born, I’ve been constantly doing new things and meeting new people, all because of him.
It started with the support group run by my lactation consultant, Ellen Steinberg. I wasn’t comfortable leaving the house alone with a baby to drive 20 minutes to her house, but I did it because I needed to hear the stories of the other women there and know that I wasn’t alone. (This was back when (1) I was still terrified of this cute but unpredictable creature who had completely turned my life upside down and inside out, and (2) my son would wail loudly and inconsolably in the car for the duration of the trip.)
I became friends with the women in Ellen’s group and we started getting together on our own. When I was too afraid to drive with my baby to a couple of our outings, sweet Arlene picked us up and took us with her. Since then, my son has learned to fall asleep in the car, and I have gotten used to driving to new places. I’ve also gotten used to meeting new people, something that’s never been very easy for me. I’m even taking a Kindermusik class with my son, all because I believe it’s good for his development.
And then there was this blog. I barely knew what a web log was when my baby was born, but this blog has turned into my favorite “me” activity. I’ve always wanted to share all of the things I’ve learned throughout the years, and this is the perfect way for me to do that. And who knew I’d be able to master some rudimentary html?
I’ve done more in the six months since my son was born to expand my comfort zone than I did during the preceding two years, when I focused my energy on starting a family. I have a feeling that this little boy has only begun to change my life – and me! – for the better.